Life doesn't take away from you, it frees you
Welcome. Understand and assimilate that life does not take things away from you, it frees you from things.
Life always gives you relief so that you can fly higher, so that you can reach fulfillment.
From the cradle to the grave is a school. That's why what you call problems are lessons.
And as I say in the Master YourselfNo one has the same lessons. They are individual. And if you don't learn them, you fail and life presents them to you in a more painful way, so that this time you react and don't fail.
You feel a loss when someone dies or leaves or decides not to live with you anymore. But life teaches you that you didn't lose anyone. You stopped living the lesson with someone. And that is appreciated. Even if it hurts.
If you have lost someone you loved, remember that the best things about that person, the most important experiences, are still in your memory; your heart is grateful for them and your spirit gives them a sense of eternity.
There is no death… there is change. And on the other side, wonderful people await you: Gandhi, Michelangelo, Mary Magdalene, St. Augustine, St. Paul, Mother Teresa, your grandfather and my father, who believed in wise things about life, foolish things about money, controversial things about politics.
Everything is a learning process. We need to discern what works for our lives today and what doesn't.
There are so many things to enjoy and our time on earth is so short, that we need to learn to handle life with RAW realism, without mental lies and with spiritual sensitivity.
Suffering is a waste of time; it is a mental act of a painful memory. It is always the memory of something that happened in the past and that we bring to the present and makes us suffer again with the promise that it will not happen to us again. And the only thing it does is steal our confidence, saddens the soul and distances us from those who are by our side today.
We have winter snow and spring flowers to enjoy, chocolate, Mexican tacos, French baguettes, Chilean wine, Caribbean beaches and Brazilian football.
We can take time to read: The Thousand and One Nights, the Divine Comedy, Don Quixote, Pedro Páramo and listen carefully to the boleros of Manzanero and the poems of Whitman; the music of Mahler, Mozart, Chopin, Beethoven; we can contemplate the art of the paintings of Caravaggio, Rembrandt, Velázquez, Monet, Picasso and Tamayo, among so many wonders.
And if you have a terminal or very serious illness like cancer, COVID or AIDS, two things can happen and both are good: if it wins, it frees you from the body that is so annoying (I'm hungry, I'm cold, I'm sleepy, I feel like it, I'm right, I have doubts). And, if you win, you will be more humble, more grateful. Therefore, you will also be happier, free from the tremendous weight of guilt, responsibility and vanity, willing to live each moment deeply, simply, AS A RAW REALITY.
Always remember: You are not depressed, as your mind tells you, which lies. You are idle, distracted, and remembering with your lying mind facts that cause you suffering. Pay attention. Your medicine is attention.
Help someone who needs you. That person lives in your space and maybe he or she will help your child tomorrow. You never know. It has happened to me; I don't know if it has happened to you too.
Furthermore, service is a sure happiness, like enjoying nature and taking care of it for your grandchildren's future.
Love until you become the beloved; indeed, until you become Love itself. And don't be confused by a few murderers and suicides. Doing good to others is a form of self-love.
Doing good is a silent act, but it produces blessings that will be enjoyed by your loved ones.
Sometimes society teaches us to focus on ourselves. The truth is that this makes you a terrible self-centered human being.
The solution is to become obsessed with something that will serve others. It is to become selfless instead of selfish.
Helping others is what makes society progress and I can't believe we've forgotten that.
A bomb makes more noise than a caress, but for every bomb that destroys, there are millions of caresses that nourish life.
When life gives you a thousand reasons to cry, show it that you have a thousand and one reasons to smile. Look at your life from your eternal self, from your wise self, from your thymus… and the mind will hide the suffering in a drawer and it will not hurt you.
Thank you for reading me. I am grateful to know that you have read these lines.
Dr Roch.
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