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WHY DO YOU YELL AT A PERSON WHEN YOU ARE ANGRY?

A Tibetan story tells that one day an old sage asked his followers the following:

–Why do people yell at each other when they are angry?

The men thought for a few moments:

-Because we lose our cool - said one - that's why we shout.-

-But... why shout when the other person is right next to you? - asked the wise man - Isn't it possible to speak to him in a low voice? Why do you shout at a person when you are angry?

The men gave some other answers but none of them satisfied the wise man.

Finally he explained:

-When two people are angry their hearts are far apart.

To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other.

The angrier they are, the louder they will have to shout to hear each other across that great distance.

Then the wise man continued:

– What happens when two people fall in love?

They don't shout at each other, but speak softly to each other.

Why?…Their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small.

The wise man smiled and said:

– When they fall even more in love…What happens?

They don't speak, they just whisper and become even closer in their love.

In the end they don't even need to whisper, they just look at each other and that's it.

This is how close two people are when they love each other.

Then he said:

-When you argue, don't let your hearts drift apart.

Don't say words that will distance you further.

There may come a day when the distance is so great that they can no longer find their way back.

Thank you for reading me.
Dr. Roch.