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Defeat as a triumph

Many of us have experienced what the French soccer team experienced at some point in our lives, because most of us have lost at some point too, and we have asked ourselves things like: why me?, what did I lack to win?, is everything so unfair?, is there no other chance?, is there nothing else that can be done?, am I not good enough or what’s wrong with me?, am I going to give up, is this not for me?, is it too painful, do I not want to try again? All of these thoughts in the form of questions have the same root of affirmation against you, which says: “I am not worthy”, “I am not worth it”, “I am useless” and others. And these thoughts generate doubts about your person. This action of the Mind is called: Internal self-sabotage.

That is the main battle that we must win and the most challenging one, it is the true opponent in temporal life. This is one of the works that I do with my clients in the Mastery in Yourself. It is from that observation of reality that I affirm that the MIND LIES. And in its desire for perfectionism it criticizes and destroys everything that is not Perfect, including yourself, your person, your essence as a human being.

I share the words that TIMO, the wise and royal spirit that we all have, would say to them. The eternal spirit (Timo) would say to the entire French football team at the end of the game:

“The French team is great because they know how to deal with defeat as what it really is (they know how to lose) and they understand that losing doesn’t make them losers, it makes them brave because they gave their best on the pitch: the continuous fight to not lose hope of winning, despite being down two to zero and with so few minutes left in the match. What we saw was the fight of a group of French players to give that extra, regardless of the fatigue of the entire World Cup and of that long game.

To win, you have to understand the meaning of knowing how to lose. What a great example for everyone to see a group of French professionals do what many times nobody does:
Bravo France, that is how we demonstrate in public what we must do in private when we experience a defeat of this kind.

What is your defeat? Tell me about your defeats in life? Do you find it useful to read this to give another meaning to your business failure, your dismissal from that big company, your divorce or simply your lost game in your neighborhood team tournament?

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Thank you for reading me.
– DrRoch