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Are you the partner that your spouse is enough for?

Welcome, remember that the old paradigm of love (which consists of the erroneous belief that marital success depends on your luck in finding the right person, that is, the prince or princess, and then you can lie in a hammock, since love will take care of the rest) has produced severe problems in the couple, it has contaminated, deformed, poisoned or sickened it to different degrees.

This paradigm produces couples with “malformations” or different levels of toxicity, while the new one generates nourishing relationships. (As seen in my book Naked Relationships)

So that you can appreciate in a more concrete and specific way the nature of what can be given birth to, both the “womb” of the old and the new paradigm of love, I designed a typology of the couple, or classification of marital styles, which are experienced in the three-day retreat called: “bonding”, but before showing it to you I would like to define what a nourishing relationship is and what a toxic one is.

For this purpose I will use food as an analogy:
There are those that after ingesting them leave you with a feeling of well-being and satisfaction, others so that you can love their nutritional properties and they strengthen you, this invigorates you and provides health.

There is another variety known as junk food, which although you may like, does not provide you with the energy and nutrients that the body needs for optimal development.

Finally, there are toxic foods, which cause weight loss, discomfort and make you sick.

I think that something similar happens with couples; we can find people who are an exquisite delicacy, true food for the soul, a great stimulus for personal growth and who turn out to be a splendid companion on the journey through life.

On the other hand, there are junk couples that can give fleeting moments of delight but without essence, without substance, they are disposable products, emotional tourists (in other words) they are counterfeit coins that leave us in the void.
Finally, there are toxic couples who cause indigestion, fill our soul with gas and cause heart cramps.

Below I describe style number one, which is the one that generates the new paradigm of love: awakened couples, that is, those couples who strive to become professional and make an effort and commitment to their growth process.

We will then review toxic couple styles, which are derived from the old paradigm, those that do not work adequately for the evolution of their love project, in which, as their number rises on the scale, the increase in their immaturity, dysfunctionality and destructiveness becomes evident.

Thank you for reading me
Dr Roch.