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A real experience of a couple without sex in their relationship

By Dr. Roch

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By Dr. Roch

Today I want to share with you the experience of one of my clients who was in a relationship without sexual intimacy.

I trust this story will help you understand what I explain about the thymus and the nervous system in my real students.

Nobody talks about sexless marriages in church.
And even less so when it involves a woman who actively works in it.

This is what she suffered in silence for more than a year.

The first session

She came with me for a thymus reading session.
Without telling me anything beforehand, she scheduled the meeting via Zoom.

She appeared on camera serious, perhaps doubting that my reading could help her. She had already explored many options without success.

She was sitting in her living room.
Hands together.
Eyes on the floor.

I began to read what resonated within him… what he kept silent.

And I said aloud something that no one had ever said clearly to him before:

“You are very worn out, tired, and desperate because you and your husband haven't been intimate in many months. It's been over a year since you've had sexual intimacy.”

She shuddered.

From here on, I speak in the first person (her testimony)

I nodded slowly. I leaned back on the cushion in my living room.

For more than fourteen months I heard the same thing from my church pastor:

“Pray for it. God is going to restore what is broken in your marriage.”

And every night, on my knees beside my bed — while my husband slept on his side and I on mine — I prayed.

Fourteen months asking God to fix whatever was wrong inside me.

Nothing changed.

Until I heard about Dr. Roch's work and decided to contact him.

The “perfect couple”

My husband is a deacon.
She greets people with a warm smile every Sunday.
He leads the group of men.

I lead the women's Bible study.
I organize the annual retreat.
I'm the one who brings food when someone is sick.

We are the church's "perfect couple".
Twenty-two years of marriage.
Four children.

Holding hands in praise…
but separated in bed.

Nobody suspected a thing.

Every Sunday we acted as the married couple everyone thought we were.
And every Sunday night we returned to our shared solitude.

How it all began

At 38 something changed.
I started making excuses: tiredness, headache, early tomorrow.

At 40, excuses were the norm.
He looked at me with hope… and I tensed up.

He stopped looking for me when I was 41.

And I felt relief.

That was the most embarrassing thing I was to admit.

I sought help

I went to my doctor.
“It’s hormonal,” he told me.
I took supplements. Nothing changed.

I went with the pastor's wife.
We prayed. Nothing changed.

I read books.
I went to therapy.
I consulted a psychiatrist.

Nothing changed inside me.

I tried to force myself.
I stood there feeling nothing, while he tried to be gentle.

He realized it.

“We don’t have to do it,” he told me.

But nothing was right.

The night I realized something wasn't working

One night I found him sitting in the dark.

“I feel like I’m losing you,” she said.

I loved him.
But my body wouldn't respond.

At 42 I gave up.
Not with my marriage.
But I do have the idea of fixing it.

I accepted that I was broken.

Reading the scam

One early morning I found a video of Dr. Roch talking about the thymus and the nervous system.

During the session, she told me something that changed everything:

“Your mind believes that you are failing your husband and God.
But your nervous system is in survival mode.”

My body was saturated with stress.
Years taking care of everyone, serving, meeting expectations.

In survival mode, the body shuts down what is not essential.
And the first thing to fade is sexual desire.

It was not a sin.
It wasn't a punishment.
It was not weak faith.

It was biology.

A nervous system that had forgotten how to feel safe.

The process

I started the workshop Mental Assaults.
I started Coaching Wednesdays.

Week 1: I noticed that he was constantly clenching his jaw.
Week 2: I slept through the night for the first time in months.
Week 3: My husband hugged me from behind… and I didn't tense up.
Week 4: I felt His hand in prayer.
Week 6: Something awoke.
Week 8: I looked for it. Because I wanted to.

We hugged. We cried. We laughed.

“There you are,” he told me.

“I was always here,” I replied. “I was just trapped in a body that didn’t feel safe.”

Four months later

We're not newlyweds.
But it's us again.

Last Sunday we held hands during worship.
But this time it wasn't acting.
It was a real connection.

My pastor asked how we were doing.

“God answered our prayers,” I replied.
“Only not in the way we expected.”

If you're reading this…

If no one talks about marriages without intimacy in your church…

If you've been praying and nothing changes…

If you love your husband but your body won't let you get close…

It may not be a sin.
It may not be a lack of faith.
It could be a nervous system stuck in survival mode.

And that can be worked on.

I spent more than fourteen months asking God to restore my marriage.
He did it.
Only not in the way I expected.

With gratitude,

A reader of the scam with Dr. Roch

More information:
https://drroch.mx/lectura-del-timo/