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The three compasses of being

I once asked an exemplary man what he would do to avoid getting lost in life.
I wasn't looking for comfort, or poetry, or luminous phrases to remember and then forget.
I was looking for something that could support me when my soul becomes heavy.
And the lying mind creates storms in clear skies.

He looked at me silently.
But it wasn't an empty silence, but one of those silences that reveal,
that expose you, that leave you without masks.
A silence that sees what you cannot yet put into words.

And then he spoke.
Not to impress me,
but to deliver to me three truths that still accompany me today
as if they were ancient, as if they had always been inside me.

  1. “Get moving. Don’t wait until you feel ready.”

He told me that human beings get lost when they stop moving forward,
when negotiating with fear,
when he postpones what he knows he should do
waiting for a perfect moment that never comes.

He explained to me that life does not reveal itself to those who observe, analyze, or judge.,
but to those who are moving forward.
Clarity comes after the step, not before.

That the action—even clumsy, even uncertain—
It has a sacred power:
It transforms the invisible into real existence.

And I understood something that changed the way I lived:
He who remains still, thinking and opining, shuts himself off.,
And immobility is another way of disappearing.

  1. “Don’t let your desires diminish you.”

Here her voice became softer,
like someone talking about very old human wounds.

He told me that when one desires only for oneself, the soul shrinks.
and life loses its air, its horizon, and its meaning.

That the desires that arise from the ego
They devour, they demand, they self-destruct.
But the desires that are born from the wise being (thymus) develop you, nourish you, and connect you.

I understood that true greatness
It is not measured in conquests,
but in the mark we leave on those who walk beside us.

That a good path is one
where your existence elevates the existence of others.

And that nothing great can be built
without strong ties.

  1. “Don’t live according to the character that your lying mind or the minds of others have assigned you.”

This was the one that pierced my chest.

He told me that everyone, without exception,
We carry inherited expectations:

Our parents'.
Those of the people we love.
Those of society.
The successful ones.
Those of past versions of ourselves
who continue to demand continuity
even though they no longer represent us.

And he warned me about something unsettling:

If you are not attentive and aware
You end up living a life that isn't your own.

An obedient life.
A borrowed life.
A life without destiny (Timo).

“Find your truth,” he told me.
“Not the most accepted,
not the most comfortable,
not the most applauded.
Yours.”

And I understood that authenticity
It's not an aesthetic choice,
It's a way of breathing.

When life gets heavy…

Today I know that on that day I wasn't looking for answers.
I was looking for permission.
I was trying to remind myself.
I was looking to return to myself.

But what he gave me
They were not answers,
but compasses.

And every time life gets tough,
When the lying mind pushes me into confusion,
When fear tries to control me,
When the world asks me to be something other than what I am…

I return to these three truths:

Keep it up,
expand
And be yourself, even if you tremble.

Because getting lost is human,
but to meet…
It is an act of consciousness.

Thank you for reading me.
DrRoch