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THE NOURISHING COUPLE

Type number one.
“Your needs are as important as mine.”

There are many definitions of love. Some are very poetic but unrealistic, and others are false. That is why I am very pleased with this title that I propose, because it is a fortunate way of showing the expression of maturity in love. Imagine how wonderful it is, your needs are as important as mine!

This means that I will dedicate myself to satisfying both my needs and yours, regardless of whether I agree with them or not.

This definition of love shows that a relationship is between two people and that for a couple to win, both have to do so, that if one person wins and the other loses, the one that loses is the relationship.

Consider how nice and comforting it is when your partner supports you in carrying out your own projects.
To illustrate this, I'm going to give you an example that I used to give to my students in the Master's in Organizational and Human Development at UDEM.

I told them: “Imagine that your husband gives you the news that he has to go to Guadalajara for 15 days to take a training course related to his work area, which he will attend with great enthusiasm since this represents the development of something as important to him as his profession.

Once in Guadalajara, during his free time he goes to a bookstore to buy his wife a book on psychology as a gift. While he looks through different titles he looks up and sees a poster announcing that in two months there will be a conference on “New Advances in Human Development”, which will last ten days and will be attended by the most important theorists in the world on the subject.

In a loving gesture, he decides to pay for her registration, as well as her accommodation, food and flight, so that when she returns she will have that surprise.” Of course, my students' mouths watered at this example and they just kept sighing.

It may seem exaggerated to you, but this is thinking of the other, this is loving, since whoever manages to make this attitude his own, reaches plenitude and happiness through himself, but also through the other; he makes the happiness of the other his own without losing sight of the fact that he has already resolved his own personal fulfillment through his projects, but that of the other completes and enriches his desires.

With this story that I told you we saw what it means to take into account the loved one.
Now, so you can see what it means to not consider their needs and well-being, or to take care of their physical and emotional integrity, in other words, what is the lack of commitment, the inability to put oneself “in someone else’s shoes” or the selfishness of thinking exclusively of oneself, I will tell you this joke:
A prisoner sentenced to 50 years in prison for multiple murders and rapes escapes after spending 18 years in prison. As he escapes, he enters a residence where a young couple is sleeping. The prisoner ties the man to a chair and the woman to the bed. He then brings his face close to the woman's neck for a few moments, then stands up and leaves the room. The husband takes advantage of this moment to approach his wife, dragging the chair, and says to her: ―Honey, this guy hasn't been with a woman in years. I saw him kissing your neck, and taking advantage of the fact that he left, I want to ask you to cooperate with him and do everything he asks of you. If he wants to have sex with you, don't reject him and pretend that you enjoy it. Don't make him angry. Our lives depend on it! Be strong, honey; I love you. And the young wife says to her husband: ―Honey, I'm glad you think so. Sure, that man hasn't been with a woman in a long time, but he wasn't just kissing my neck, he was whispering in my ear that he found you very attractive and wanted to know if we kept the Vaseline in the bathroom.

Be strong, my life, I love you too.

Thanks for reading me DrRoch