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The importance of knowing how to fight

It is sometimes believed that fights are poison, but this is not the case. The important thing is to know how to face conflict in a constructive and healthy way.

Well-managed conflicts can be very useful to let the steam out of the pressure cooker and prevent it from exploding. Those who never disagree are in serious trouble. If you don't know how to handle differences, you're also in trouble. But if you take conflicts as part of any relationship and learn to resolve them, you'll be living your relationships in a healthy way.

Learn to distance yourself and look for the right moment to confront conflicts, but don't hide problems. Don't deny that you are having difficulties with the person you are in a relationship with. Don't hide from them that you felt offended or hurt.

Can you imagine a real relationship without disagreements? That's a fantasy. Besides, if it were real, it would be a life without challenges and without flavor. Maybe it would bore you.

Many times conflicts do not arise because one of the two is always condescending to be in apparent harmony with the other. He submits so that there are no problems or arguments around daily coexistence.

The person who always submits forgets that a yes to another is a no to himself. And when this situation is repeated many times, it ends in frustration and the person rots from within.

The goal of a relationship is to grow, and to do so, life gives you conflicts as a couple. It's that simple.

Fights are not pleasant. They are often exhausting because the parties assume a survival attitude, attacking and defending themselves. There is adrenaline, fear, unrest; the gorilla inside us wakes up. This makes it difficult to reach intelligent and creative solutions.

It's often best to step back and let things cool down before actually engaging in serious discussions. This is easier said than done. It's inevitable that some heat will come out of the fight, however, the important thing is to know your own pressure gauge.

Some people can handle a high level of anger in an argument and come to a solution. However, if you let yourself be pushed to the point of maximum tolerance, where you are likely to lose control and explode, no one knows what will happen.