Do you love one of your parents more than the other?
Do you love one of your parents more than the other? Read the consequences:
There are truths that hurt… but they set you free.
And this is one of them:
Loving your mom more than your dad is an emotional disorder.
Loving your dad more than your mom is also a sign of this.
And both have real consequences in your adult life.
I know many people won't like reading this.
But I don't write for you to like it.
I write to make you aware (to make you realize reality as it is, raw and unfiltered).
Because we're not talking about romantic love here, or "innocent" preferences.
We're talking about invisible loyalties, those silent forces that shape how you love, how you work, how you choose a partner, how you relate to success... and even how you face your fears.
When the heart aligns only with one of the parents… it is not love.
Is it fear, is it compensation, or is it an unconscious loyalty to pain?.
Let's take it one step at a time:
- Compensation
When a child "takes on" one parent, it's not by choice; it's to compensate for what's missing, what hurts, or what wasn't resolved between them.
That child grows up believing that his mission is to balance what the adults could not.
This compensation becomes a pattern that is later repeated in friendships, jobs, and relationships:
People who give too much, carry too much, and get too tired.
- Fear
Sometimes your heart attaches itself to the "stronger" parent or the "more fragile" parent, depending on what your mind needed to survive emotionally.
That childhood fear creates adults who live on alert, who seek approval, or who flee from conflict.
Result?
Tense relationships, avoided decisions, and a life lived only half-lived. Lived from the mind that lies and not from your wise spiritual self (Timo).
- Loyalty to pain
There are people who love the father who suffered the most, or the one who hurt the most.
It's an unconscious way of saying:
“If you suffered, so did I. I won’t leave you alone.”.
But that loyalty silently ruins your life.
It stagnates you, drains your energy, and binds you to stories that aren't your own. You relive what your parents didn't resolve, leaving you in a position to pass on to your children, nephews, and grandchildren that same unresolved problem, ingrained in your DNA, in your family heritage. That's why many of my students take the Self-Mastery course to free their descendants from these burdens.
The price of family emotional disorder
When love for parents is not balanced, symptoms appear sooner or later:
• Relationships that don't work or that break down without explanation.
• Professions that advance slowly, even if you do everything "right".
• Anxiety, chronic stress, or the feeling of carrying an invisible weight.
• Emotional sabotage.
• Difficulty in receiving, trusting, and building healthy relationships.
Many therapists avoid this topic because it touches on very deep structures.
But what you don't see rules you.
What you deny controls you.
What you hide… you repeat.
In my retreats there is always time to read the reality of my students and help them to resolve it definitively.
Now I ask you:
Not from what you think, but from what you see in the harsh reality of your life:
• Do you love one of your parents more than the other?
• Are you noticing consequences in your current relationships?
• Do you see patterns that repeat themselves over and over again?
• Do you see this same thing in the lives of your siblings, friends, or colleagues?
Family is your first emotional laboratory.
There you learned to love, to protect yourself, to defend yourself, and to allow.
And what you learned—whether you like it or not—is still alive within you today.
If you want to learn how to organize your relationships without superstitions, fears, and inherited burdens, send me a message.
I'll gladly answer you.
Because emotional freedom can also be trained.
Thank you for reading me
DrRoch
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