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7 cold hard truths

Today I'm going to talk about the 7 hard, cold, blunt truths that you realize when you turn 40.

You don't worry about nonsense anymore.

It is disturbing to evaluate your past life with the wisdom you have when you are over 40 years old.

The fact is that during these years people get rid of a lot of emotional baggage that was bothering them and weighing them down.

If you analyze it, you will discover that it is because you have learned to live with these seven hard lessons.

Let's start with the first one:

First harsh truth:

You can't do it all

When you say yes to something, you say no to something else. There are exactly 24 hours in a day for every human being.

If you have a date, you don't go to the gym. If you watch Netflix, you don't study or read that book you want to finish. If you go to the bar, you don't go see your parents. You have to choose.

And it applies to serious things too.

You can't waste time rambling about anything else if you're going all in with a goal.

I love writing my books, but if I want to write new chapters, I can't spend my time trying to win dance contests on TikTok.

With all the clarity of analysis… I can't.

I have to dedicate myself to my main mission, to have the opportunity to add value in what I do.

The lesson contained in this truth is: Choose your battles wisely, choose where you put your attention, decide what you want to do with your time and don't lose focus on what's important in your life. Remember that it's temporary. It goes away faster than you think.

Second harsh truth:

You can't change someone if they don't want to.

I'm not arguing anymore. I'm leaving.

I have found that most people before age 40 have spent most of their adult life:

Arguing with everyone, trying to make life better for their parents and friends, telling them: “Do this and that. Try hard and you’ll see how well you’ll do.” As if we knew. Besides, we did it of our own free will in almost all cases, and nobody asked us to.

That's not how it works.

That's why I prefer to write and give three-day retreats and give the Mastery in Yourself. People who come to me do so with a desire to improve and by their own decision. And that makes them listen to me.

Moreover, most of the time, people don't want to hear your point of view and compare information to make better decisions: they want to win the argument. Their lying mind always wants to win. To be right. It's all rhetoric. And that makes you waste time and energy.

Hidden lesson: Don't lose your head trying to change anyone's life. Invest your time in your own life and let your life testimony make others want your help.

Third harsh truth:

Hanging out with interesting people is better than hanging out with interested people.

There comes a point where you don't let beauty cloud your judgment when it comes to letting someone into your life.

You know that beauty is fleeting. And that it is much better to surround yourself with intelligent, fun and loyal people, instead of attractive people who are empty inside or have hidden agendas.

You've been there before. You know how those kinds of stories end.

You want people who contribute and enrich, not who absorb and burden.

Hidden lesson: It is much better to have a life partner than a bed partner.

Fourth harsh truth:

Nobody wins without losing.

Elon Musk lost a lot of money on rocket launches until he built SpaceX into an efficient tech company.

Thomas Edison failed more than a thousand times until he created the light bulb.

Walt Disney declared bankruptcy many times.

The history of humanity is full of failures.

But also of people who refused to give up. And that is why we have progressed so much in such a short time as a species.

This year, realize that your resistance makes you progress. And that you want to keep going. That moves you further away from your own incompetence every day and makes you more useful to others.

Hidden lesson: If you persist, you endure. And if you fight, winning is just a matter of time.

Fifth harsh truth:

Pretending to be someone you are not is a mistake.

What's the point of being someone you're not?

Suppose you don't like me; good for you. I am unique, and my uniqueness makes some people like me and others hate me.

And I don't care.

Faking it won't get you to the top. Being authentic and associating with people with your inclinations and interests will.

Hidden lesson:

In the game of life, the best players associate with the best players. Read that again.

Sixth harsh truth:

Routine is freedom

I'm a nerd about human behavior and self-improvement, and I'm not ashamed to admit it.

I do everything from my Thymus and I do it because it works. Simple. It fills me with energy and I am amazed at how my students and I get miraculous results.

A long time ago, someone said: “A sailor without direction is a sailor who drowns when the storm comes and gets tired of rowing.”

You have to have a clear guide, a reading of raw reality, and that is done with the Thymus (inner wise being). Otherwise, you will be left sailing in theoretical circles of the lying mind, in the sea of uncertainty. Because the theory of the mind is not the raw reality of the thymus.

Also, when you have the reading of your reality, you know that the creator speaks in it and guides you.

It is like rowing and steering the helm of your life in the direction that gives you evidence of results in your life.

You will not reach port without that structure that gives you the reading of the raw reality where God speaks.

Hidden lesson: Writing your raw reality and reading what life asks of you is the best way to know where to put your time and money.

Seventh harsh truth:

The best revenge is a good life.

Age 40 isn't just any number. It's the age when you connect the dots and things start to fall into place for you. You finally see how things work.

And you realize that it is useless to carry the weight of hatred and resentment. That it is better to evolve, have a good life and smile. Besides, it is the best revenge.

You probably haven't thought about it, but when a person is mean and miserable and trying to screw up your life, what happens when you leave them is that THEY ARE STILL THE SAME.

Wild people are damaged because they are still themselves when you walk out of their lives. So they want you to hold a grudge against them: so you won't forget them.

That's how things work; that's how we connect the dots and neurons by making new synapses in lobes where you didn't have those connections.

Hidden lesson: When your enemies see you happy and prosperous, they realize that they couldn't even stay in your memories, and that silently bothers them.

Extra bonus:

Learning is real success.

Success is the byproduct of sharing value. And I hope that with this article I have achieved that.

Thank you for reading me.

Dr. Roch