Using conflict to build my relationship?
How to build or strengthen the emotional bond of a couple when we are in the middle of a conflict?
The main problem we will have to face is our state of mind, because when we are in the middle of a problem we may think with little clarity and with less flexibility than we are normally capable of.
At the point of rigid agreements and blame, I explained a very useful tool to help us achieve this, since starting the conversation with “I want to live with you because…” is very likely to change our emotional state.
In addition, we have suggested that it is preferable to make an appointment with our partner when we want to discuss the problem at hand, as this also ensures that when the day and time we set arrives, our feelings will have already changed.
We can generalize this idea and present it as the topic of self-regulation of emotions as a central element of emotional intelligence. In the last 30 years, different models have been developed with this approach, which can generally be grouped into two large categories: skill models and mixed models.
Skill models are those that focus on mental abilities that allow us to use the information provided by emotions to improve cognitive processing, and mixed models are those that combine or mix mental abilities with stable behavioral traits and personality variables, which is where I emphasize.
The development of emotional intelligence, on the one hand, increases people's well-being, and on the other, helps them to deal with difficult situations in a more adaptive way, increasing the probability that they will achieve the goals they set for themselves. You can work on this at the Vicularte retreat. DrRoch
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