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Do you think your relationship is doomed because of quarantine?

You are frustrated, you don't know how to communicate, you feel more and more distant and you don't know how to solve it, here we tell you new ways to express love.

An article I read recently cited Psychology Adriana Villarreal, a professor and author of relationship books, to help couples adapt to change, she said: CONNECT.

This word was engraved in my mind, exactly, we must connect and adapt to any change. pandemic of COVID-19 It is one more obstacle that we are going to face.

But how to do it?… the specialist explains it to you:

SQUEEZE YOUR TENDERNESS

It's worth experimenting and search new ways of loving to another person without physical contact, let it be like a challenge because of the quarantine, Villarreal said.

“It is a very cool part of mutual learning, of discover how I express love to you, how I like to express it to you now How do you like to feel and receive it?.

"With the physical contact It is very simple to do, we have it in our instinct, but this crisis serves to Get to know your partner better, because maybe you love him send flowers and he doesn't like them," he explained.

The psychologist said that learning to transmit love without physical contact, taking into account that it is due to quarantine, can help couples keep your relationship alive.

“Explode your tenderness, be kind, we must be clear that we are in a crisis situation and we are all reacting differently than normal. You can use messages, video calls or by phone.

The specialist also advises having precautions when using virtual media.

“Imagine, you send her a compromising photo and at the end of the quarantine you break up, so it's better to squeeze out the tenderness.”

MAKE PLANS WITH YOUR PARTNER

The teacher recommended make a plan with the other person and have agreements to have a healthy relationship.

“We must find ways to share time, to share love and how make the other feel good; for that agreements must be made and be aware that Each one has to put the 50% so that the relationship works at 100%,” he said.

Among the agreements that Villarreal suggested are the respect the times, as eset schedules to see or call each other and do activities together remotely.

“Chat and watch a movie together on Netflix Party, play in Facebook, laugh and talk nonsense in Zoom“Relax, play the music you like during a call,” he suggested.

TIME TO EVALUATE YOUR RELATIONSHIP

This quarantine is also a time to reflect on your relationship and assess how much you miss the other person.

“It's a really cool time for test and evaluate If you really want to spend your time with the other person, see if you actually have a good time with the other person even if you can't touch them. 

“That will tell me if I'm just attracted to you physically or if maybe you're obsessed with that person, find out if there might be something stuck there and realizing that you are not in a healthy relationship", he added.

However, the psychologist made it clear that when evaluating your relationship, it is essential not making important decisions, well, we must be clear that we are in a crisis situation.

“Don't make important decisions, because you might regret it later; right now you don't have the same filter of perception that you would have in normal life, but yes you can observe", he advised.

ANALYSE YOUR BEHAVIOR IN THE CRISIS

Part of valuing your relationship is observing How your partner behaves during the pandemic, since moments of crisis sometimes reveal hidden parts of our personality.

“You can know a lot about someone for a long time, but it is not enough until you meet her in a crisis, you can learn aspects of his personality that you didn't know about.

“It is a time for observe how they react, both you and the other person, see if you are compatible and thus evaluate if you really want to be together in good times and bad", he added.

She also suggested learning conflict resolution techniques to know how to act individually and as a couple in the event of a crisis.


'BE HONEST'

Good communication is essential to having a good relationship. healthy couple, the psychologist pointed out, that is why it is important to express as openly as possible how they feel.

Have a frank communication It will strengthen the trust between you and your partner and will prevent problems such as jealousy or differences due to divided points of view on any subject.

“There must be direct communication, in which you can frankly express your feelings or say openly if you don't like something, no matter how simple it may seem.

"We have to talk, even if some negotiations seem silly to us, right now is the time for a lot of negotiation, being much more explicit than usual in what we say, let's understand that we are in a different situation," concluded the psychologist.


IF YOU WANT TO TALK TO SOMEONE ELSE…

Do not hesitate to consult a specialist, Dr Roch will always have a place for you.