\u201cWhat is not consciously acknowledged is experienced as fate.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Yesterday I saw Guillermo del Toro's new Frankenstein film. I can't dismiss it simply as an aesthetic experience or a well-told story. What this director does is open a deep human wound: abandonment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you look at it from the perspective of human behavior\u2014and remember that my doctorate is in behavior\u2014the central theme is not horror.
The real monster is not the creature\u2026 it is the absence of the father.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
No child is born a monster\u2026 monstrous is the silence of the father who does not look at his child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That's why I think the film could have had titles more faithful to its essence:
\u2022 \u201cThe monster that was not loved.\u201d
or perhaps
\u2022 \u201cThe creature abandoned by its creator.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Guillermo del Toro has said it: his Frankenstein is not about fear, but about loneliness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And behind every child who feels alone, every broken individual, every adult who cannot name their wound, there is always a story of paternal abandonment that marked their identity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When a child is not looked at, he ceases to exist for his lying mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In human behavior we know that the father's gaze structures identity.
When a child is not seen, acknowledged, or supported, he feels that his existence has no place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Some seek approval by being \u201cperfect\u201d.
Others seek it by rebelling.
But the origin is the same: to be looked at by the one who created them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bowen (1978) explains it clearly:
The wounds of abandonment do not remain in childhood; they are passed down through generations.
It's not just the father who is lost\u2026
The mirror where the son was supposed to learn who he is is lost.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What a father keeps silent, a son shouts with his whole life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Del Toro's creature: a son made of solitude<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In this version, the creature is not just an external monster:
It is the sum of all the father's unattended emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It is built with:
\u2022 the lack of a father's gaze,
\u2022 the creator's indolence,
\u2022 the loneliness of the excluded,
\u2022 the desperate need to belong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Thus, the son inherits a fear deeper than that of dying:
the fear of not existing for the one who was supposed to support him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The wound of abandonment doesn't seek revenge\u2026 it seeks a gaze.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In humanistic behavior we say:
He who was not nourished from within will anxiously seek it from without.
Replacement partners, savior friends, professions that compensate for the missing validation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The son abandons his essence\u2026 so as not to be abandoned again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The father's pain is also inherited<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Del Toro is precise: Victor Frankenstein did not only create the creature.
He inherited his wound.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
He too had been an illegitimate child.
A broken child who repeats the same mistakes without realizing it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In terms of behavior, we call this:
intergenerational transmission of deprivation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The name is elegant\u2026
But their reality is brutal:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everything you don't resolve, you inherit.
Everything you heal, strengthens your children and descendants.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We don't look at the monster: we look at the father who didn't know how to love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The film is impactful because it forces us to see what we don't want to see:
\u2022 not only the creature,
\u2022 but to the Creator,
\u2022 to the father who did not restrain himself,
\u2022 to the adult who fled from his wound.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And when you see it that way, something inside you \u2014 your thymus, your wise self \u2014 begins to heal.
Sometimes the mind interprets it as a miracle.
Perhaps it is.
Just like terminally ill patients who regain their health when their thymus gland is activated and medicine cannot explain it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What the son wants is not revenge: it is recognition<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In my work with students and patients, I see it every day:
They are not seeking punishment, they are seeking to be seen.
They seek a look that tells them:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cYou are not a mistake.\u201d
\u201cYou are not a monster.\u201d
\u201cYou exist for me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Del Toro's creature does not want to kill its creator.
She wants a look.
A place.
A father.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That's exactly what our children are looking for today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A message for those of us who are parents<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you're a parent, this film is a powerful reminder:
Your presence shapes identities.
Your absence creates internal monsters.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Not violent monsters, but children who doubt themselves.
Children who feel defective.
Children who learn to survive in silence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Abandonment doesn't kill instantly; it kills when you no longer feel anything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I invite you to watch the film from this profound perspective.
Not as entertainment, but as a mirror.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Because we have all, at some point, been the creature that wants to be seen\u2026
or the father who didn't know how to do it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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And let's continue learning together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Final extra phrases for reflection:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cChildren don\u2019t want a perfect father, they want a present one.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cA loved child flourishes. An ignored child withers from within.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cThe creature was never the mistake\u2026 the mistake was not looking at it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHealing your inner father is the beginning of ceasing to repeat his shadow.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cAbandonment teaches you to survive, but love teaches you to live.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWhen a father doesn\u2019t look after him, his son ceases to exist for himself.\u201d<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
\u201cLo que no se hace consciente se vive como destino.\u201d Ayer vi la nueva pel\u00edcula de Frankenstein del cineasta mexicano Guillermo del Toro. No puedo dejarla simplemente como una experiencia est\u00e9tica o una historia bien contada. Lo que este director hace es abrir una herida humana profunda: el abandono. Si la ves desde la conducta […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":10542,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10541","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-sin-categoria"],"yoast_head":"\n